Author(s): John Neffinger
Everyone wants to know how to be more influential. But most of us don't really think we can have the kind of magnetism or charisma that we associate with someone like Bill Clinton or Oprah Winfrey unless it comes naturally. Now, in Compelling People, which is already being taught at Harvard and Columbia Business Schools, John Neffinger and Matthew Kohut show that this isn't something we have to be born with-it's something we can learn. Expanding on the themes in their co-authored Harvard Business Review cover story "Connect, Then Lead," they trace the path to influence through a balance of strength (the root of respect) and warmth (the root of affection). Each seems simple, but only a few of us figure out the tricky task of projecting both at once. The ability to master this dynamic is so rare that we celebrate and elevate those people who have managed to do it. Drawing on cutting-edge social science research as well as their own work with Fortune 500 executives, members of Congress, TED speakers, and Nobel Prize winners, Neffinger and Kohut reveal: - The common thread connecting Machiavelli and Martin Luther King - The secret technique behind the success of Bill Clinton, Ann Richards and Denzel Washington-one that you can use today - How looks affect our career prospects - The single best strategy for getting someone to agree with you Offering practical advice for a range of common and challenging situations, Compelling People explains how we size each other up-and how we can learn to win the admiration, respect, and affection we desire.
How people judge you - and how to come out looking good.
This is not just another pop-psych book: it's the first book to capture and share the insights from all the recent groundbreaking research on how we judge and persuade each other. And it translates that into simple, practical terms anyone can use to build more effective relationships at the office or home -- Amy Cuddy, PhD, Harvard Business School Have you ever wondered why you make the impression you do? In Compelling People, John Neffinger and Matthew Kohut marshal a wide-range of evidence from psychology to demonstrate that everything you do projects your strength and warmth to others. Not only does this book tell you why people react to you as they do, it also provides specific suggestions for managing your image. This book is a must-read for all leaders who want to maximize their influence on others -- Art Markman, PhD., Professor of Psychology and Marketing at the University of Texas and author of Smart Thinking and Smart Change
John Neffinger and Matthew Kohut are partners in KNP Communications, a firm specializing in presentation coaching and communications strategy for corporate and political clients. They also lecture regularly at Harvard Business School, Columbia Business School, MIT, Bennington College, and the Naval War College.